Girlfriend looking to open relationship
Hi All,
Recently I met my current girlfriend early last year. everything was going well throughout, and I actually saw a potential future. We were planning to get married and settle down.
Only recently of this year, whereby I noticed less attention from her. Less update about her life, less text and everything just felt stale.
We had this conversation about this. Initially, it was established that I was not her ideal type financially and ambitious, and it was agreed that we work harder to have a comfortable life. She proposed to have an open relationship to explore further before settling down.
We had another conversation a month in. This time she mentioned she was actually being chased by another guy awhile back already, went for drinks occasionally but assured there was no intimacy.
The reason she is telling me this now, was because she wants to progress with him more intimately (FWB) and don’t want to go behind my back cheating and feeling guilty.
To be fair, i did told her that I am open to the idea of open relationship, but only if she update me the process.
Now that she told me, I feel that I am losing my ownself and personal values if I attempt to stay together while being in an open relationship.
While I appreciate the honesty, and I think i might have felt better if she tell me she is looking to explore and start exploring together. But she is already seeing someone before, and telling me this now. So idk, kinda feels sucky.
I don’t want to dive into details on the thing, but basically she feels that there are somethings I cannot offer her and she wants to seek it elsewhere.
To be fair, we met on a FWB dating platform. She mentioned that it was very lucky that we managed to progress into a relationship. Foolish me thinking that there could be a chance this might work out together.
Just looking for some honest thoughts. Somehow Reddit users give the best advice