I've been with my husband 25 years. We have 3 kids. Things are not great between us. Lately something he is doing is red flagging. He is unable to own up when he messes up and shifts blame on others all the time. He does this a lot with my eldest who is 11 and it infuriates me.
Yesterday we were on the motorway and he started sliding into the right hand lane without clocking that there was an acceleration lane coming to its end and the car driving down it had nowhere to go but the lane he was driving into. I screamed because we were about to slam into the other car at 120km an hour. We have been arguing about the incident since and he refuses to admit any fault. He blames the other driver for failing to indicate. I've repeatedly said that both drivers fucked up but that ultimately her massively messed up because he failed to clock the car in the acceleration lane and that it was reckless.
This is just one example. He is a wonderful father. And we do get on very well.in general But this is really bugging at me. He had history of jealousy, and I do struggle with the fact he is rather controlling. Not so much with me but with situations and life. Things need to fit to him.
Two years ago for example my mother came to visit us, she ended up having to leave two days early because he was finding her presence too much. She can be overwhelming, but she lives far away and my perspective is please just suck it up for five days, is it really that hard?
I'm exhausted. I need the opinion of others. Am I overreacting?