u/AdLeft8762

For context, Mom has been weird since I was young. Reading my facebook messages, logging into web version of my social media to see my texts live (ran to me to slap me when she saw something she did not like and take away my phone - I was 17/18), eavesdropping on the telephone and unplugging cord if she did not like the friend, smashing my phone when she was angry, confiscated my phone til 18, stalking me to places to verify I am where I am, not allowing me to speak to opposite gender and putting me in a religious non-coed school til 16, being a hypocrite big time doing things in hiding when she said it should not be done publicly and to her children. A lot of the things we /I did , they asked what people would think/say. Umm there is a lot of other stuff but now I am away from her control and she even phrased it as losing me to others even tho I just am becoming independent. I proudly tell her stuff like that and she laughs and says I could have more "luxury" just staying with her (keeping me dependent) while before she was complaining that I want to continue my studies and not work. She also asked me to take loan for another house for her. I am really confused why Id do that as she is super far away and I have no interest being there. She constantly tries to manipulate me still like Im still the kid with fear. She even said "what will your dad do if he finds out ??!?" Like I am scared of him still... She enabled his violence and he physically hit me as a 5yo child for asking him why he slapped my mom (he drank). Mom was enabler at first but became narc and they made a happy narc arrangement. Dad said he does not want to divorce cuz ppl would say he is the issue since he divorced before. All in all 100% signs of narcissism in every aspect. They will twist and rewrite stories to paint me as the problem child that needs saving and them as the generous, kind, "unconditionally loving" parents. I am NC out of anger due to last straw recently. It was not big but it was a reminder; Im tired of them no matter how small. I just up and stopped talking to her as I dont have a need to depend on her for any support. She seems to forget parenting ends at 18 and u can provide financial support and other support (she cant do that tho) ; she exhibits same pattern for sibling in that case although the expectations of me are crazy. Mom called me her investment of x years recently when she visited. I am so disgusted. Now she spam calls me on different numbers, create more fake numbers to do so, got me on on over 5+ social media platforms including LINKEDIN, spam called partner during work, and also asked them for my landlord's no. It has been about a week since NC. And today: her messages to me on a diff no.->

[3AM] Annoying Narc Mom: U awake??

[7 AM] Annoying Narc Mom: Pls start sharing with me

[7AM] Annoying Narc Mom: I am for u 24:7

[7AM] Annoying Narc Mom: pls call me

[8AM] Annoying Narc Mom: I m sorry

Pls speak

Give me chance to explain

[9AM] Annoying Narc Mom: Hi

[10AM] Annoying Narc Mom: Why not replying

I said sorry