My niece has a bad habit of using people, but not paying back her dues. I came around for every birthday, graduation, sports event, housewarming you name it, for 27 years. Then my niece sends me a ‘save the date’ for her wedding and two weeks before the wedding she let’s me know that I’m welcome at the party at her parents’ house on the evening of her wedding. That’s it. 27 years of showing up and giving presents, but I’m not allowed at the ceremony, just allowed to drop off a cash gift at the party in her parents - very large - back yard. They’re rich, so it’s not about money.
My niece recently asked my advice on building an extension to her house, before she bought the house. I knew that wasn’t possible because she already had a big extension at the back of the house. There’s a rule that only a certain percentage of your back yard may be built on. You see, when she needs me, she contacts me.
So i just said: “You can ask the city council“ and left it at that.
They ended up buying the house and asking permission to build an extension.
It was refused.
Now she’s mad at me because I didn’t warn her.
Too bad. Good luck with your € 550.000 house with only one toilet and having to go outside to the garage to do your laundry.