u/AdHairy2278

There's this guy I met at church, 27M. I'm 22F. He's always texting me on Sunday morning about how he can't go to church... when we were supposed to sit together (he asked to).

Last Sunday... he said he can't make it to church but we should hang out sometime. IVE BEEN WAITING FOR HIM TO ASK. I WAS SO EXCITED.

He asked to get food together and he also wanted my schedule.

So I gave him my schedule for the week and he said "Saturday seems to be the better day for me". And now today, Tuesday, he's saying he has something to do on Saturday, but we can go to church Sunday and grab food after.

Is he playing with me? We've only known each other for a month and some change. And i'm being over dramatic? I definitely don't wanna lose him by making assumptions.

But i just wish i knew what keeps coming up. Is he choosing to hang with friends? Is it another girl?...

This is my new coping mechanism to save me from disappointment.

I get too hooked on with guys i like and always think about us getting married lol. This might be damaging to my mental health. Well as you can see... it's clearly ruining me.

I really want a relationship :( .

I'm just going to assume i'm not special and no one will ever want to take me seriously.

Save myself the heartache.

And maybe this will help me calm down and be able to let things play out with guys.

After meeting, how long should it take someone to state their intentions or ask you on a date?

I met a guy at church a month ago who said he wants to start sitting at church together. So far we've sat at church together twice, a month apart, but plan to next week Sunday as well (his suggestion again).

22F 27M

Should i let things play out or does it sound like he just wants to be a friends?

This is the first guy from church i've ever talked to. Been going to that church for over a year lol. Definitely makes me hope things will develop into more.

Recap: April 6, sat next to a guy at church who introduced himself to me and said he wants to start sitting at church together. 22F 27M

(First time...he didn't go to church the following Sunday. Second time...he went to another location's church. Third time… me and him just never correlated how we were going to meet at church. Fourth time... we finally sat together again after he messaged me about it.😂)

( he was active on my social media though)

Now: yesterday, we sat together at church again, and he gave me a hug immediately when he saw me. ( I saved him a seat).

So after worship… We talked about how we both wanted to get re-baptized because we got baptized when we were a little kids. But he said he wanted to test himself before getting baptized. Reading through the whole Bible is one of the achievements he wants to meet. ( Not sure why).

He also said he has bad experiences with small groups because it's a bunch of twisted opinions being thrown out there about the Bible. But he said he would love to join a small group again that meets weekly.

Should i continue to get to know him? Does he sound like a decent guy?