This all started when I started getting the thought “I should break up with him”. The first few times I ignored it and pushed those thoughts away. This time, it’s been sticking with me for almost a whole week.
A little background, we started dating in August of ‘24. I was in my last year of school and he was set to graduate in December. He doesn’t have a drivers license and the location of school and where I was living was about 40 minutes apart. He moved into where I was living after he graduated, and then in May of ‘25, moved across the state with me because I had gotten a job. This move left all of our friends behind. We’ve been in this new place for about a year now.
This last time I got the thought of breaking up, since it didn’t go away I wrote down everything I was thinking and feeling. I realized that I felt pressured to say “I love you” (he said it within 3 weeks of dating) as well as pressure by my other roommates(who were better friends with him) to suggest living together. Everything moved too fast for me looking back on it.
Normally, I wouldn’t overthink this choice of pushing through or cutting it off except the timing of everything couldn’t be worse. He is trans(FtM) and just had top surgery. I don’t want it to seem like that is the reason why. His birthday is also next month and I don’t want to be a total asshole, but the month after is when our lease expires and I would like to give him the option of not being stuck in a lease out here. On top of that, we also have 2 cats that idk what would happen with them(I just wanted the one and he wanted to get the other later on)
I can give more context for something if needed, but what do you all think I should do?