For context I’m 18, my best friend Dana is also 18, and our friend Vida just turned 17. Her birthday was on a weekday, so we couldn’t celebrate that day. She invited us over Friday to help decorate and stay the night before her pajama party.
Dana got off work early, so we went to Vida’s house before she got home and surprised her by decorating with her mom and setting up gifts. When she walked in she literally cried, she was so happy. The night started off really good, we hung out, watched movies, and everything felt normal.
Later that night she vented about a fight with her boyfriend and somehow blamed Dana’s boyfriend, which made things uncomfortable, so we changed the subject. The next day most of the girls canceled, and we found out one had been talking bad about Vida. Only one girl, Laney, showed up, and she kept to herself even though I tried to include her.
That night we went to the beach for a bonfire. Vida’s parents set it up and then left, which caught me and Dana off guard. As it got darker and more cars started driving by, it didn’t feel safe. When we tried to find a bathroom, the closest ones were locked, which made it worse because we’d have to leave Vida and Laney alone if we went somewhere else.
I told Vida I wasn’t comfortable being there without adults, but she argued and compared it to being there with her boyfriend, which isn’t the same. We ended up going to Dana’s mom’s house to use the bathroom, and she was not okay with us being alone on the beach either.
When we got back things were tense. I tried to fix the mood but it didn’t really work, and Dana was getting more stressed as it got darker. Eventually she said she wasn’t comfortable and wanted something to change. Only then did Vida call her parents, even though we had already said something.
Once her parents got there everything was fine again. We had pizza, played games, and it felt normal. When we left, everything seemed okay.
About 30 minutes after I got home, Vida sent a long message saying we embarrassed her in front of Laney and ruined the night. She said we should’ve come to her privately, even though I already did.
Well, I didn’t think the night went to shit. We weren’t doing anything her parents wouldn’t have approved of. I felt unsafe, Dana felt unsafe. It’s not a safe area, and Vida was simply being naive and rude. So I sent back another big paragraph saying I’m sorry she feels that way, and I’m sorry that Laney didn’t want to be included despite my efforts, but I’m not sorry for my behavior, and that she’s the shitty friend for choosing her coolness in front of Laney over mine and Dana’s safety on the beach at night alone.
She hasn't texted me since, and her birthday is tomorrow so..I don't know, was I in the wrong for this?