De-escalating with NP to escalate with secondary? Does this work?
EDIT: thanks for all of the advice. And I apologise for the title confusion. to be clear, my intention is NOT to monkey branch or move out with NP to move in with another partner. It’s two separate questions, and I have been thinking about both. Somehow I have phrased this in a terrible way. I want to move our with current NP to live by myself, and in the FUTURE consider escalating with another partner.
De-escalating:
I’m thinking about my future and realising over the last few years that compatibility with NP is not something I necessarily envision long-term. If I were to de-escalate and begin escalating later with a secondary, how can this work? Is it possible to maintain relationship with NP without causing too much hurt? does anyone have success stories in this regard?
Escalating:
Also, are there steps to this? Would it be wise to try cohabiting with secondary a few days a week to see if it works? - even without this I still want to de-escalate with NP, but this question is more in regards to escalating with secondary later and seeing if having them as NP could work. I have been with current NP for 7 years, so really don’t know how it would be to escalate with a secondary partner, especially considering with poly that you don’t always see/know how it is to live with secondaries, as your time spent together varies so much from that of a NP. Catching sometimes only the good parts of dating. Sorry for the long post.