Looking for views regarding your spouse consuming adult content.
My boyfriend (24M) has always watched porn. He wants me (35F) to watch with him. We have been together 3 months - started hooking up about a month prior to that. I used to do it as well, but only when single.
I'm not exactly comfortable with even him watching it - I feel sh!t thinking about him getting off to other women (he only watches lesbian porn) and have honestly had such a knock to my confidence and also my sex drive (we used to have sex daily, sometimes multiple times).
I knew he watched before we officially started dating, but didn't realise until recently (about 2 weeks ago) he still did when he mentioned he watched it sometimes when he got horny thinking about me. I told him I don't like the idea of him doing it and he said that's ok, but have now realised he still wants to watch it but with me. So there's clearly a bit of a misunderstanding. I gave it a go this past weekend and hated it. I was tired and pretty sexed out as we had been going at it throughout the night and it was 3am. He asked if he could jerk off and I said fine.. he then asked me to show him what I used to watch.. I have half assedly googled something and while I lay next to him he watched some videos while he went at it.
Please advise on the following:
* If you watch together with your partner, what do you watch? What do you do while watching it?
* Whether you watch together or not - how should one feel about how frequently the adult content being watched?
* How does watching it make you feel afterwards and how does it affect how you view your partner? How does it affect your sex life?
* If you don't like your partner watching it, how do you approach this? Particularly if you feel shy or scared to do so.
* If they don't want to stop, how does one deal with it? I understand this is a complicated one, but if you have advise or a view, please share.