u/Actual-Beach8774

I’m ashamed because a few hours ago, I broke no contact and was impulsive from anger and sent an angry text to him. He went from begging me back and telling me he chooses me to discarding me a month later again like I’m nothing. When we broke up, he claimed he’s too overwhelmed for this relationship and how he wishes he could show up for it. Claimed it wasn’t about other women. This was three weeks ago. He texted me on my birthday (I posted about it in here) and I stupidly replied and thanked him only for him to “heart” the message a day later. The whole time during the week of my birthday (last week) he was watching my stories despite me deleting him. Now he’s adding women and they’re adding him back and liking all of his posts and it just hurts so much. I feel stupid for texting him and I don’t understand how after two years someone could move on in three weeks. All these women do is post thirst traps and we’ve had an issue with him adding these women during our relationship and when I’d get upset, he’d say I was overwhelming and needed space. Why do they lie and put everything back on you? Why beg for me back just to leave for someone else? He claimed I was the only woman for him and now this. How did you guys stop looking? He’s blocked now but I’m just so hurt. Saying he is overwhelmed with a relationship to try to pursue another one? Makes absolutely no sense. I hope he doesn’t answer because I just know whatever he says back will hurt me more.

Hi everyone! This community has been so helpful for me so I thought I’d ask for advice. My ex boyfriend broke up with me like three weeks ago but the last time we saw each other was a month ago. He claimed that “this dynamic wasn’t working for him at this stage in his life.” This is the second time he broke up with me and this time lasted a month and a half. The first time he had begged for me back after a couple of weeks. Anyways, my 30th birthday was a couple of days ago and he texted me earlier in the morning. He was one of the first people to tell me happy birthday and “hopes I’m doing well.” I replied when I was ready to which was a few hours later and just said “thank you, I hope you’re doing well.” He waited a whole day later to just heart the message which all of this felt kind of pointless to me. His birthday is next week and I’ve been struggling with whether to text him happy birthday or not. On one hand, I just don’t want to be rude but on the other hand, I was so overwhelming for him apparently and so the best thing would be to just not right? I don’t really feel a desire to. I feel like he might expect me to and still periodically watches my stories on social media despite me deleting him on everything when we broke up. What would you guys do?