Akala ko papunta na kami sa dating...
Hello!
I'm 28 M and met this guy (35M) in an event in Davao. We spent the night together kissing, talking, and vibing really well. A few days after that, we went on a proper date and it felt amazing! The conversation and humor was there! And I genuinely felt a connection!
Sabi ko sa sarili ko "Parang iba to".
After the date, he went back to Manila because doon siya nag wo-work as a lawyer. For the next 2 months, we talked consistently every single day.
- Good morning messages
- updates throughout the day
- vulnerable convos
- future plans
- he even started calling me baby after the first date.
Timing din kasi I booked a flight pa Manila, before we met. We also talked about the acitivities we'd to together and palnned to go back in Davao together. Nag resign kasi siya last April.
FF to when we finally met again in Manila. Pumunta kami sa isang museum sa BGC, and while it was really good to see him again. Nung nag dinner na kami after the musuem, I immediately noticed something was off. He seemed emotionally distant, He barely asked questions about me. And nakikita ko sa screen niya, he was scrolling on FB.
That honestly irritated me, because pumunta naman ako doon to connect with him tapos mag fa-facebook lang siya and maging non chalant.
Sa second meet up namin, I asked him for exclusive dating twice. That's when to told me he's not ready for a serious relationship because of personal problems, work pressure, and family matters. He asked me if okay lang ba sa akin maging "friends" na lang kami.
That completely broke me inside kasi akala ko we were leading toward dating. I don't understand how someone give you all a relation like gestures, and hindi pala ready to date.
Doon lang ako naguluhan TBH.
He later sent me a message taking accountability and saying I did nothing wrong. He admitted he pulled away becuase na emotionally overwhelemed siya.