I need some insight on something that happened recently. LONG POST ALERT!
Im F (29) and my relationship with my mom became rocky as soon as i got married, her thoughts are that i married a poor man who does not help me in life. That said man, my husband has been providing for everything, the visa fees can be overwhelming, around £4,000 every two years, and he has never once complained. I also dont work so all my bills are his and again he doesnt mind at all. My mom on the other hand feels like i should go back home and leave my marriage.
My grandma has been sick for a while and the bills skyrocketted, due to this, my moms family decided to start a fund me to raise bills for her. Now there are several groups which i joined recently and have been contributing the little i have to each.
Yesterday my mom texted me saying how i dont use my brain because other people are contributing more than me when it is my grandma and not theirs. I told her ive been contributing to other groups as well and she went on to say “if you are languishing in poverty come home and stop looking like you are living a happy life.”
Which tbh sounded to me so rude, because i feel like she only cares about what people think instead of the goal which is to raise funds for my grandma.
I also told her that my side gig would be paying me this week so i will send more money, which she went ahead to dismiss and call me a fool.
I told her im not a child anymore and i do not appreciate that tone and she said to use the block button wisely. She ignored me from there.
I have been depressed about how she treats me, and i was wondering, how do i deal with this, and im i wrong? I just dont understand this bitterness she has towards me. ):