I asked out a girl today for the first time but she refused, she said we can hangout but nothing serious.
The reason she said that is because this our last week of our last semester in college.
I felt embarrassed because the delivery of asking her out was nothing like what I had in mind.
I want to ask a girl out (We don’t talk to each other much) I called her to tell her I want us to meet, she didn’t respond a few minutes later she called back I didn’t respond.
The next day I called again (maybe she called was sleeping) after an our she send me a message saying what’s up, I told her I wanted to meet she said I am not free to go out and then she said if you want we can meet.
What are my chances?
I would like to approach a woman, we are both college students soon to graduate. Here is the deal, I am someone that always wanted to meet a woman in a natural way, but this damn natural moment never happens. I decided to approach a woman and here is the situation I would like your advice, if I see positive responses I will go ahead and do it right now.
I don't even know if what I am going to tell you are considered hints from her, but it's good to know nonetheless.
We didn't have much encounters, I previously took a class with her, this semester we are both working in the same part time job and we shared a shift once (only once) (btw a shift has two people sitting in a desk), during that shift she kept asking me questions (work related) and she even remembered the class that we took together (most probably because we were in the same team for the final project of that class), and the last time we encountered each other was when I walking in campus, I didn't see her but she said hi to me and asked me if I have a shift (I answered with a dry no and walked away), another encounter was when we had a work meeting, at the time I shaved my goatee and mustache, and that's the first time she sees me like that, and I saw her smiling at me from across the room (my suspicious mind tells me that she probably was looking at someone else).
The thing now is that I wasn't interested in her at the time for some reasons, but now I decided to change because I felt like I wasted four years of college without trying be more proactive and waiting for that perfect moment to come to meet someone.
I was previously cold towards her, so I don't know what her reaction will be like. The way I want to approach her is as follows, I am someone that associates colors to people (not to everyone but to those that I have some knowledge about) those colors represent energies I get from people, the color I associated with her is a dark red (which is a color I am attracted to), so I would like to initiate the conversation like this, I will get her number from the work group, call her, tell her I would like us to meet, and tell her about my "colors thing" and that I see her as a dark red and I am attracted to this color and I would like us to get to know each other more and even tell her that it might seem strange to her that I am approaching her at the end of our college journey, but I am doing this to mark the beginning of changing my life and making it an adventure instead of a routine.
What do you think?
As the title says, I want to know how you met your partner, I am specifically interested in knowing the initial stages of the relationship.
How things started, who approached the other? If you are a woman, did you give any signs, (if so what type of signs)? If you are a man and you approached a woman and things went well, how did you meet for the second time?
I would appreciate if you detail your answers instead of saying something like "We met at event X".
I am more interested in the HOW than the WHAT, which means I don't want to hear what you did in your dates or encounters, but rather how you set up those encounters. I hope I was clear.
I would like to share my thoughts on dating and relationships, as someone who's never been in a relationship before. I am someone that doesn't talk to women (talk as in a deep conversation about a something), not because I feel nervous around them or because I fear talking to them, it's just that the opportunity never came.
I don't like using dating apps or social media because it feels fake to me. I prefer to meet someone naturally, but here lies the problem. I don't think think this natural way will ever come my way, because I am someone that tries to be out of sight as much as possible, I never share my thoughts and opinions with people, as it feels performative, I never participate in activities or clubs as well, for the same reason.
Also, say you managed to find someone, those initial talking stages also feel performative to me.
And finally, I will never approach a woman I see outside for looks, it is literally the most stupid thing to ever do (it's like opening a mystery box that you don't know what's inside, and I don't have the energy to deal with what comes out of that mystery box).
One quick note: I might sound nonchalant talking like this, but in reality I am someone that craves emotional intimacy and I see that finding a wife will be the biggest achievement of my life.
TL;DR: I feel like most human interactions are performative and I don't want to participate in them.
I would like to share my thoughts on dating and relationships, as someone who's never been in a relationship before. I am someone that doesn't talk to women (talk as in a deep conversation about a something), not because I feel nervous around them or because I fear talking to them, it's just that the opportunity never came.
I don't like using dating apps or social media because it feels fake to me. I prefer to meet someone naturally, but here lies the problem. I don't think think this natural way will ever come my way, because I am someone that tries to be out of sight as much as possible, I never share my thoughts and opinions with people, as it feels performative, I never participate in activities or clubs as well, for the same reason.
Also, say you managed to find someone, those initial talking stages also feel performative to me.
And finally, I will never approach a woman I see outside for looks, it is literally the most stupid thing to ever do (it's like opening a mystery box that you don't know what's inside, and I don't have the energy to deal with what comes out of that mystery box).
One quick note: I might sound nonchalant talking like this, but in reality I am someone that craves emotional intimacy and I see that finding a wife will be the biggest achievement of my life.
TL;DR: I feel like most human interactions are performative and I don't want to participate in them.