In advance, sorry for my grammar.
I’ve been dating my girlfriend (22F) for almost 6 months now, but we’ve been talking since early s2025. Before we became official, our situation was really toxic. Since getting together, though, we’ve both changed a lot, taken each other seriously, and things are actually good now.
The problem is that I can’t stop thinking about someone from my past (22F).
She wasn’t my ex since we never dated. I started liking her in early 2023. At first it was just a crush, but when she rejected me, it somehow made my feelings stronger. By early 2024, we became friends, and that’s when I genuinely fell in love with her. I’ve never felt that strongly about anyone else.
During our friendship, she made it clear I never had a real chance with her. Then in late 2024, we fell out over something personal and stopped talking.
After that, I tried to move on by liking other girls and guys, distracting myself however I could, but somehow my thoughts always went back to her.
Then I met my current girlfriend. Back when we were just talking, she was the first person who actually helped me stop obsessing over the girl from my past. But because things between us were toxic, I ended it in late 2025. We were apart for about a month, and during that time I realized I missed her and wanted her back. We got back together and became official.
Now we’re in a healthy and happy relationship, but lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the girl from my past and comparing those feelings to what I have now.
I feel like deep down, I’ll always love the girl from my past. I have developed genuine feelings for my current girlfriend and I know I love her. I feel like I love 2 people at the same time. That makes me feel guilty, especially because my girlfriend has genuinely changed and is trying. Im conflicted. I don’t want to keep hurting her but I also don’t want to leave her. I don’t know what to do.
How can I process unresolved feelings from the past so they stop affecting my current relationship? What steps can I take to stop comparing my current partner to someone from my past?