u/Acrobatic_Command560

step 1 : get a boyfriend or girlfriend

yep

I was seeing some posts and i remembered something i usually say to people for different things

the feeling of love is a basic human necessity, the modern act of love is an induced demand

like buying expensive chocolates, pricey roses, stuff with hearts with unreasonable rates on it - it's an induced demand made to force you to spend more to prove your love

while looking at some posts, it hit me

why am I not getting good matches in tinder or hinge or bumble when I'm active and great matches when I reinstall or use it after awhile?

I looked it up - the dating app's algorithms are wired in a way that they hold back potential matches with high compatibility scores and just show you types you've proven to dislike to keep you swiping

if you keep swiping - the company can show a high usage rate and show you more ads and earn more from ad revenue

that's not all - the premium although looks like giving you a super power like ability within the app is also wired to keep you paying every month

think about it, if you install and/or pay premium and delete the app after a week when you find a nice guy or gal - what's in it for them?

grindr is a whole nother bucket of fuck ups - not going in to that now

so umm go to queer events, pride parades and places where you have to show your face - that usually pbly works

happy hunting

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