I’m (24F) Considering Leaving France to Move to Greece for My Boyfriend (29M) and Need Advice ?
I (24F) have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (29M) for about a year now and we’ve known each other for around 3 years before we started dating.
I currently live in France where I have my friends, family, my routine, and a job as a web developer. My contract is supposed to end soon, but my company wants to renew it for another year.
My boyfriend lives in Greece and wants me to move there to be with him because he can’t be the one to move due to his situation/work. The thing is, if I move there, I’d basically be starting from zero. I’d have to learn a new language, make new friends, find a new job, adapt to a different country/culture, etc.
He works night shifts from around 5 PM to 3 AM, while I’d most likely work a normal daytime schedule (9 AM to 5 PM). So even if I move there, we still wouldn’t spend that much time together during the week and even during the weekends.
Part of me feels like relationships sometimes require sacrifices and maybe this is just “the next step.” But another part of me is scared of giving up my entire support system and stability for a situation that might end up being lonely and isolating.
The thing is, I love my current job. The atmosphere is super chill, all my coworkers feel more like friends than colleagues, and I actually enjoy going to work every day, which I know is rare.
But at the same time, part of me thinks I’m still young, so maybe this is the time to take risks. If things don’t work out in Greece, I could always come back to France and rebuild my life here. But I also know I’d lose this job opportunity and the stability I currently have.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do in my place?