u/AcrobaticZone2014

im feeling hopeless, i feel like my only escape is death

I posted yesterday about contacting my ex/ father of my childs Probation officer about all the abuse and she said she couldnt do anything unless there was a police report filed, right after i saw that message with her i contacted the non emergency line to try and put in a report and they said they would send someone to my home to file the report, no one ever came. While i was at work today i got a phone call from an officer saying once im home i can have police come to file my report and to just call 911 to have somebody sent and yet no one had came, im about to call a 3rd time and im feeling so angry and so hopeless, the gravity of this situation is so serious, this man has broken into my house twice and one of the times while i was sleeping, hes shown up to my house, has come to my job in a full body disguise every time i leave him and go no contact, hes tried to kill me and has raped me while i was in a relationship with him, im in fear of my life when im with him and once ive left him and try and move on with my life i still live in fear that ges going to break into my house, show up to my house or my job again. Hes been to jail and charged multiple times for domestic violence and has done this to 2 other women and he always gets a slap on the wrist, last year he punched me and strangled me while i was driving and then took my car, i called the police and they took him but was released a month and a half later. I dont know what else to do and i feel like my only escape is death.

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u/AcrobaticZone2014 — 8 hours ago

can his probation officer do anything?

On friday my now ex/ father of my child physically abused me again, it started with an argument about how hes been unemployed since the beginning of January and hes been using my doordash account to make money, he made about $100 and i put $50 of gas in my own car which he has been using too, he used up all the gas and half of his $100 went to gas and then the other half he spent on weed and he’s been buying take out for us even though i told him i dont mind making something at home so we can save some money. He started the argument with “why are you always belittling me” because i told him that the money he makes off my doordash account mostly goes to gas, gas where im at is at 4.65 the gallon and my car takes $50 to fill the tank and he only makes about $100 a week cause its not very busy and thats what started the argument. He cornered me in the bathroom and he grabbed me by my head and banged it repeatedly against the wall and it made a crack on my wall, i cried and he kept threatening with hitting me again if i kept crying and eventually he just kept telling me that he loves me and he took me into my room and he forced me to have sex with him and expected things to be alright and he took my car to go doordashing again. I immediately called my best friend in tears and she came right over in case he came back trying to act violent again and she got here, while he was gone he called and she recorded the phone call and he basically admitted that hes sorry for physically hurting me, he showed up and my best friend recorded the entire interaction. I didnt call the police or file a police report at the time because i was so tired and i was so over it. Other times i have broken up with him before hes broken into my house when i blocked him and he wouldnt get any answers from me and the last time was while i was asleep so me and my best friend went to the store and got security cameras for my house and we installed them and she stayed the night. Sunday came and he called me from an unknown number and i immediately hung up, now its Wednesday and i called his probation officer and i texted her all the evidence and she basically said “i cant do anything without a police report” i have filed police reports and nothing ever happened which is why i went to her. I called the non emergency line and tried to file one and they said they would send an officer and im currently waiting, im afraid they wont show up like the last time and my ex is going to break into my house or show up again. He even has an active warrant out for his arrest so i dont understand why no one has done anything. Im feeling so anxious and hopeless.

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u/AcrobaticZone2014 — 1 day ago