Hi, I need some advice. I 34F have been working for 8 years since graduation. For the past 7 years I had been diligent with money, always saving and taking care of my niece and cousin sister, as in they were my dependents as well as my immediate and extended family members. I reached a point of feeling so burnt out and tired from mot achieving what I want in my life.
Since late last year I am now living alone, taking care of just me. I want to start living life for me not others. My coworkers now have nice cars and put down payments for houses etc and I am just starting out as if I just started working. I want a car that doesn't break down 3 times a year etc.
I stopped fully helping my family financially last year but I do take care of my parents who are retired. So I am going for a work conference at a nice destination and I saved some money to do activities as it is also my birthday week. One of my sister's who is a single mum and struggles with 2 kids because her husband died in a car accident needs help with her rent. She is now crying because she might get evicted. She has refused to finish school or get a proper formal job. She hustles and lives for that life.
I want to enjoy life and my money instead of bailing people out. So should I help her or forfeit my birthday activities again to give her the money. I have given her rent money and money for her business last year which were not small amounts and now she needs money again. What do I do?