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I found out I was pregnant shortly after breaking up with my ex. From the get-go, he wanted an abortion, and pushed for right until the deadline to try to pressure me. But when it became clear I was keeping my baby, he lawyered up and threatened me to do a paternity test. By this time I had relocated out of state to be near support so I ignored these threats for the most part. I continued to act in good faith and gave updates but the letters and threats kept coming so I filed a suit a few months to get some structure and I'm now afraid. He doesn't care about me or the baby at all. Has anyone been in a similar scenario or have any advice?

Is it normal for paternity/custody cases to move slowly in the beginning? We confirmed a testing location last week and I still haven’t heard anything about scheduling. Trying to figure out what’s “normal” versus concerning.

What are some must haves in a custody plan, especially with someone who has been coercive and controlling?