AIO for something my FIL said?
I, 40F, and husband, 42M, have been together almost 15 years and married almost 10. This is something I have talked with him about so he is aware but didn’t say anything that made me feel better or worse. For context, his parents divorced before he had any real memories of his parents being married. My MIL moved back home with my husband so she could have an actual support system (infidelity ended the marriage). There is a bit of distance geographically between us and his dad and step mom so we don’t see them that often, so I know this is probably apart of my problem, as well as the reason for their divorce. I have a great relationship with my MIL. She can be a “bit much” sometimes but it’s all from a place of love. In the past couple years, I have started liking my step MIL more than I had. There’s a lot we have in common and have some great conversations. My FIL is another story. He’s certainly nice enough, but sometimes think he forgets he’s as old as he is (like my parents, my in-laws are in their late 60s/early 70s). He also seems to forget he’s my husband’s father not his friend.
During the holidays, my FIL and step MIL were staying with us and the four of us were going to a major city for the weekend. It was fun and everything was going fine, until we got home. My FIL said to my husband, in front of me and my step MIL, “so did you see the ladies outside the train station with the big bozangas?” Then proceeded to make hand motions around his chest. I was flabbergasted and didn’t know what to do (because my gut reaction wasn’t exactly going to make it better). My husband kind of let out an uncomfortable laugh but didn’t answer the question. After they left to go home, I brought it up to my husband because it really bothered me. He just brushed it off like it didn’t happen, and honestly I’m not sure he actually remembered it happening. It has been about 9 months since this and what my FIL said is still bothering me. If it had just been something said between the two of them and was told afterwards, I think I’d have just rolled my eyes and let it go. Am I overreacting for not being able to let this go?