Avoidant reached out after 20 days of no contact and when I set boundaries she stalled. It’s been 31 days and still no response.
So my avoidant discarded me back in March and I still have no idea where we stand anymore. I told her originally that I needed time for myself to study for the LSAT and it was a multi paragraph message basically saying how she doesn’t reciprocate my effort and yet she complains about my efforts and yet expects me always to make the changes and she literally just wrote “ok” to that message. Fast forward 20 days later and she sends me a breadcrumb saying how she’s been thinking of me and wants to see what I’ve been up to. I quickly put a boundary because I immediately knew that her message was not a genuine bid for connection but just a way to soothe her ego and she stalled by saying “she needs to take more time to see if talking to me makes any sense.” I absolutely despised how she wrote that because how are you going to tell me 11 months of a relationship you want to see if giving me a decent and legitimate breakup makes “sense” for you to do. It’s been 31 days since and I haven’t responded to her message at all because I was so offended and disgusted by how she’s weighing the options if it like make sense to have some basic human decency and I just want a solid answer so I can finally move on in my life and get out of this limbo. What do I do? I also want to know if she reads more DA or FA. I’m trying to move on and not think about this anymore but it’s been egging on in my head for 31 days and I just want an answer or know if I should continue no contact (again) or just demand an answer. Was I too harsh in my boundary and did I push her away forever with it?