Gf (F21) says I’m (M24) not romantic enough and it’s an ongoing thing
We have been together for about 2 years now and recently within the last year she’s basically said I’m not romantic enough. I feel like I do a lot for her, I take her out places, I’ve taken her to Hawaii 2 times and nyc. I always pay for most things because I’ve been taught that’s the gentleman thing to do. I compliment her constantly, shower her with love, tell her how much I love her, buy her flowers, travel places with her. Idk whatever I do just doesn’t seem like enough. Just yesterday she asked if I wanted to watch a k drama. I don’t like watching shows dubbed in English because they always feel so fake to me. I said not really and I’m not a fan of some romance tv shows/movies either but I’ve watched a multitude of romance movies like (notebook, la la land, and other mainstream stuff with her). Anyways, after I said no she proceeds to say “you just hate romance in general” meaning irl and in shows. We just had a conversation about romance about 3 months ago and it was just how I’m not romantic enough and that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship like that, so essentially I have to do better, and I have tried. I feel as if she thinks the shows and movies she watches are reality and she’ll randomly be like “would you do that for me?” While we’re watching the show. To me it just feels unfair, I really do try, we’re both super busy with work and we’re both in college. I just feel like I’m constantly being compared to unrealistic or fictional scenarios that are on romance media. Do you guys think she’s being kinda unfair? Or maybe I’m not doing enough?
TD;LR: gf has said I’m not romantic enough despite me trying and trying again to show her romance and love. To me it feels like she’s comparing me to fictional romance tv/media.