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Anyone else in Singapore feel sian around Mother’s Day because your relationship with your mum wasn’t good growing up?

My mum used to cane/beat me quite badly when I was younger, so we never really had the warm close family relationship that a lot of people here seem to have. Every year when Mother’s Day comes around and everyone posting family dinners, flowers, IG stories etc, I feel damn conflicted. Like got guilt for not wanting to celebrate properly, but at the same time still got a lot of unresolved hurt.

For people here who grew up in more toxic or abusive households, how do you all handle Mother’s Day? Still go through the motions because filial piety and all, keep it lowkey, or just don’t celebrate?