Am I overreacting to still think my husband is obligated to do something..ANYTHING for mother’s day?
Today is Tuesday and this past Sunday was mother’s day. I (26F) am the mother of a spunky 2-year old. Sunday morning I got up with her and prepared breakfast, my husband (29M) got up in time for Sunday service and said “happy mother’s day”. He knows what day it is. We get home and I prepare lunch; while I’m working on dishes, he takes a nap to prepare for the work week ahead and the day continues on per a usual Sunday. We got together with my side of the family for dinner and I both gave and received chocolates and flowers from the women in my family; I had a great time. It’s now been two days and I’m still upset that I didn’t get a gift, a letter, a thank you, or anything personal from my husband to acknowledge me as the mother of his child. I’ve remained quiet about how I’m feeling. I am ready to approach him and ask “what the heck?” but don’t want to come off as ungrateful, angry, or proud. It doesn’t take much to appease me, I just wanted to be thought of beyond the recognition that the day is supposed to be dedicated to mothers i.e. his saying “happy mother’s day”.
In my mind, the value of a gift is substantially reduced if I asked for it or I was thought of in hindsight. I’m not looking for a gift anymore but would like a heartfelt apology; but this also is not going to be obtained by asking for it. I am hoping to just forget about it as time passes. So, I guess, that’s the solution for me.
For some context on the past two years, my daughter was born the week before mother’s day 2 years ago and it was a blur, I have no clue if he did anything or not. Last year, he picked up flowers and his favorite chocolate for me from Walmart. I accepted gratefully because it doesn’t have to be fancy and I don’t mind dark chocolate if it has fruit flavors in it. I just want to be thought of by him as I am a working mom fresh off of tax season who is showing up for her family day in and day out.