I’ve received a lot of messages asking for an update so here it is!
It’s been just over a year since my daughter and I were able to escape my abusive ex. It was far from easy. My exes dad and step mom helped us pack up and leave while he was at work one day. There was no way we would have been able to leave with him knowing. He would have done anything to keep us trapped. They were very aware how he is and wanted to help.
Well since we left, I managed to build from the ground up. We left with next to nothing. Now, we have apartment, car, job, my daughter goes to a private school and has friends, and I have relationships with family, friends, co workers, and myself. I go to the gym, I can eat what I want, we can go to the park or shopping whenever I want. I can buy my child a toy or clothes whenever I want.
I was able to renew my DVPO for the second year against my ex recently. They found a preponderance of evidence once I finally spoke up and submitted my clear as day evidence. We’re entering a custody battle now. He has 2 calls a week with our daughter through a parenting app with everything recorded, he misses half of the calls. And no, the abuse never really stopped. him and some of his family have tried to harass us many times since we left. But it doesn’t affect me anymore because my daughter and I are safe and well provided for, and I did it all on my own. And I still keep in close contact with his dad and step mom, we talk every day. Every day is better and is progress, and it keeps getting better. So, we did it.
So if you’re thinking about leaving your abusive relationship, and you’re scared, broken down, with no money, little support system, little hope. Leave anyway and just trust that you’re going to figure it out. Anything is better than being with someone who hurts you. Leave before it’s too late. Sometimes I think that if we stayed any longer I wouldn’t be here .
And thank you Reddit. I posted so many things here that we were experiencing in the months before we were able to finally escape. Just hearing the opinions, advice, support, because I had no one, made the world of difference.