u/According-You861

How to stop having violent reactions to weed?

(18F) I used to be able to smoke and have a good time, all giggles and with a blurry, wide vision. It was really all fun and games, nothing I did regularly but often enough that I kept an extremely low tolerance. One hit and I would be gone, that's all I needed. Slowly over time, specifically with carts, I noticed a splotchy spot on my neck/collar bones getting red and hot every time I smoked but it never changed the feeling of smoking. I just assumed it was a slight allergic reaction.

One day, after a particularly stressful day, my friend's boyfriend offered me a hit off his bong to help me calm down. The first time, it was fine just incredibly strong. Second time a few days later? I felt an intense and strange change. Everything was warping around me and my brain felt like a frisbee. This was my last normal experience smoking. The third time was genuinely horrible, all it took was one hit and suddenly everything was melting as if I was being sucked into a black hole. I couldn't see straight enough to walk and people had to help me sit down. Eventually, I was sitting on the couch and any shadows within the room felt like they were leaking into my vision, making everything black. I couldn't make anything out around me. My boyfriend was sleeping next to me as I was violently tripping balls, I got so scared I started kicking him and almost crying before running away to go find my friend so she could hold my hand. My heart was pounding, so hard I could feel it. I'm guessing my BPM was resting at around 130.

This experience alone felt as if I were dying. Nothing made sense, my vision was so distorted. Despite all of that, I tried to lie down and go to bed. The last thing I remembered was closing my eyes but it didn't even end there. My boyfriend woke up to me screaming just seconds after closing my eyes. I don't remember screaming, all I remember is falling asleep. That becomes a usual thing when smoking now. To make a point very clear, everyone else who smoked that day had a completely normal experience.

I took a gummy maybe a month or 3 after that incident, everything was fine. No weird trippy bullcrap. That was until I fell asleep, again, it didn't end there. The last thing I remember was lying down against the pillows in my bed and thinking "god, I am so tired. I'm gonna just sleep this off" and falling asleep.

Later my boyfriend told me I had been sitting up, eyes open, repeating words over and over, and apparently, I even punched him in the face. He said I kept saying "What is that?" And "they're in the walls, they're coming". Just very unusual behavior once again. Of course, I profusely apologized but I don't remember any of these things happening.

I've never been the type of person who sleepwalks/talks. I don't know why I'm having this kind of reaction and I want to understand how to fix it because getting weirdly violent in my sleep is not ideal.

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u/According-You861 — 15 hours ago

Everyone wants me to get a job

(18f) Everyone in my life currently wants me to get a job but I've been holding off until I find a good way to get in control of my bladder pain. I'm currently writing this at 2 AM on the toilet in just enough pain to make a struggle to go back to bed with maybe 3 hours of sleep. It's not that I don't want a job, really, I want to work but everyone else around me sees me as antisocial and lazy.

What the fuck am I supposed to do? Genuinely? Disability sounds nice but I'm far too stubborn to see that as anything other than ANOTHER loss against IC. My diet is so bland and I'm desperately craving all the things I could have while my bladder was in remission for a couple of years. (MIND YOU THIS DIET ISN'T DOING ANYTHING) Who would want to hire someone with IC? My schedules would be so inconsistent, there is a high possibility of leaving mid shift due to a flare, and the low chance of me getting hired anyway. I'm 12k+ in debt after a medical withdrawal from college, and random fees are piling up because I'm unable to access their website over the phone to pay these bills (late fees, key replacement fees).

Everyone I reach out to flat-out ignores me when I try to explain my situation to this hellhole of a fucking college.

I so desperately need a job but my body keeps failing me over and over and over and over again. Medical bills? Fuck me, might as well just rip my teeth out, shave my head, and run around like a caveman screaming. My parents aren't helping because I'm technically a full-grown adult even tho I don't go to my doctor's appointments without my mom.

This shit is enough to have me admitted into a mental hospital, all this pressure, all these high expectations of me despite my brothers being bums but perfectly healthy, still treated like a child but expected to do adult shit.

"Get a job"

"When will you get a job"

"Did you look at any jobs recently"

"Maybe a job would help"

MAYBE ripping my bladder out and launching it into oncoming traffic would help.

My mental health was not in a good place while I was pain-free, but now, I feel it's gotten so much worse. Sometimes I wish I could just lie down and die. No, I'm not going to hurt myself. No, I'm not going to do anything irrational like actually run around bald and screaming. Some part of me would LOVE to just go off the rails but I won't.

I've thought about smoking weed to help, but it makes me trip out really badly. Makes me scream in my sleep, hit people, and have panic attacks. Eating feels like a chore more than it did in High school. Existing in general feels like a chore.

Joy has been sucked clean off the bone from my life. I am MISERABLE.

u/According-You861 — 6 days ago

I've had my bladder stretched with fluid and it's fully healed now, although my flare-ups don't last as long and haven't gotten past a 6/10 in pain, I still have them off and on. For the first month, it was fine with no flare-ups. I've started changing my diet and paying more attention to the ingredients in store-bought things.

My doctor suggested taking medication as a more aggressive approach. He brought up 3 different kinds of medication, but never mentioned the names. The first was an allergy medication due to the theory that interstitial cystitis is similar to an allergic reaction, the second was an antidepressant that could help with nerve pain, and the third sounded like a medication that was used to help interstitial cystitis but was extremely expensive, hard to get approved for, and had terrible side effects.

Of course, we aren't trying these right away unless my bladder starts getting bad again (things like blood in the urine, 10/10 pain, and constant flares). Has anyone been prescribed medication like this? Have they worked for anyone at all?

I'm very sorry that I can't name the exact medication; it was just a casual discussion with my doctor and a sort of future planning.

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u/According-You861 — 8 days ago

I've been using Tiger Balm recently to help take my mind off of smaller flares. Earlier, maybe a month ago I spoke about how I had my bladder stretched with fluid and it took my symptoms away for a little while. Recently, I've started having flares off and on :/

Does anyone else use this method? I Im buying the red tiger balm as it's said to help with cramps. I put the balm anywhere on my body and it seems to help. Should I try it down near my hips? I'm scared that'll just make things worse.

As of writing this, I just had a semi-bad flare that went away within an hour. The other day I had one that lasted all day but wasn't extremely bad. Idk. Im lost.

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u/According-You861 — 11 days ago

I've used many different deodorant brands in my life and none work or smell as good as Old Spice (the blue gel ones). I've gotten chemical burns from every single scent I've used and my skin is now constantly dry and peeling. Can't really tell if it's deodorant or actually skin, it doesn't hurt but it is very dry.

Any suggestions for alternatives? I really don't want to hurt my skin but I also cannot handle any BO on my body anywhere.

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u/According-You861 — 11 days ago

I've been looking for a metallic, blood-scented perfume, but most seem to be extremely expensive, sold out, or impossible hard to get your hands on.

I'm a bit strange and enjoy natural scents, as I've always loved the smell of metal, gasoline, dusty closets, heavy stale air, and wet concrete. Just to list a few, I dunno. It wouldn't be something I would wear out, not many people would probably appreciate someone smelling like a crime scene. I've seen scents like Inexcusable Evil by Toskovat, Bulls Blood by imaginary authors, Spinal Fluid by Ataraxia, and Blood by Redwood Alchemy. I'm really unsure of all of them considering how expensive and hard to get some of them are.

Not entirely sure, but I want to find something dusty, bloody, gasoline-like, maybe wet concrete, smoky, earthy, metallic, ashy, and woody. All of these notes don't have to be exact, but y'all kinda get the picture (I hope).

Probably something affordable even if it's just the samples. Nothing that is actually unusable though like rotten scented. But I would like it to be long-lasting, something that follows you around.

Hospital-like smells would work too, something dark, dingy, and just unsettling works for me.

u/According-You861 — 11 days ago

My ex recently cheated on me and left me 1k in debt, so, I'm just selling his stuff. What could I get out of all of this? The shoes will be cleaned up, but idk, they are worn and used.

u/According-You861 — 17 days ago