TLDR: My partner has been talking more about previous sexual partners and I’m feeling inadequate. How have others navigated this feeling?
My (23 F) partner (24 M) is my best friend in the whole world. We just celebrated our anniversary and are looking for places to move together (we currently live with his parents as I had just graduated college)
We talked about previous relationships when we first started dating (bad partners, our own faults, etc) and it felt like we had a very open line of communication. We also talked about previous intimate relations and I shared that I had a bad experience with two previous partners, and have not had a positive relationship with sex. He shared a similar story about his previous partner. However, I recently found out that he and his first partner had a very sexual relationship, including a lot more than we’ve done.
Our intimacy was very frequent and exciting at first, and has dulled our over time (as expected) but recently he’s been talking more about previous experiences, including more positions/things we haven’t done. He hasn’t explicitly compared our relationship to previous, but I feel like he’s unsatisfied or not as attracted to me, and when I try to discuss it with him, it just leads to both of us feeling insecure/unfulfilled.
He tells me this is the best relationship he’s been in and we’ve talked marriage, family, etc. How have others navigated retroactive jealousy? I don’t want to continue picturing him doing intimate acts on others but I can’t seem to shake the thought.