AITA for choosing to drive 45+ minutes at 3AM instead of following my dad’s separate rooms rule?
My bf (23) and I (22) are going on a vacation. Our flight is at 6AM, so we have to be there 3AM. My parent's house is the closest to the airport, being 20 min from it. It would be easiest to stay here, as my apartment, and my boyfriend's house are farther than 45 minutes away.
My parents offered us to stay at their house so they can also drive us there so we do not have to pay for parking. This is ideal, but my dad is uncomfortable with my boyfriend staying in my room. However, my mom IS comfortable. My dad wants him to sleep in the guest room since we are "not married and should not sleep together under his roof." I understand this and will respect his wishes, but I am uncomfortable with my boyfriend being in the guest room. We are both respectful people who have been together for a while now.
So in order to make everyone comfortable, I told my dad we will be staying at my apartment. He got mad and said he wants to be the one to drive us to the airport. I told him that would be ideal, but am uncomfortable with my boyfriend staying in the guestroom. He then asked why I am making a big deal of this.
I have an amazing relationship with my dad & hate to argue about this. He's literally my hero, I respect the hell out of him. I'm wondering if I'm at fault here.
Edit for clarity: My boyfriend does not know about this at all. He is the first man I have ever asked to stay over as I have respected my dad's wishes until now. I am asking now due to convenience and time we have been together. He is my first serious boyfriend.
EDIT FOR CONTEXT: I am fine sleeping on my own! The reason I am uncomfortable with him in the guestroom is I am always a respectful adult towards my dad, and feel like he does not trust me to stay that way under his roof. Also, my 17 year old younger brother was allowed to have his 17 year old girlfriend stay behind closed doors, but I am not.