I have fairly strong OCD that is heavily based off of schedules needing to be adhered too and my partner of a few years now has started taking medication that caused their libido to go down. I didn't notice for awhile but now I've been finding my Ocd more unruly then usual. I've finally linked it to being after we've gone a little while without sex with my partner that my OCD starts going a bit haywire, the same kind of alarm bells i'd be getting if we we're running late to an event. Which made me realize that my OCD without me knowing has made a schedule for when we are supposed to be intimate and now that we're falling behind on that made up schedule has started making me antsy and annoyed.
This all causes me to bring up the subject of intimate acts to my partner much more than I used too in an effort to finish the task my OCD assigned on the schedule without telling me but my partner just isn't in the mood as often anymore which results in getting turned down most times and it's all snowballing into my brain giving intrusive thoughts from my OCD and worries about how much I'm annoying then and when and where and how to solve this issue with my schedule. Leaving me in this annoying cycle of intrusive thoughts and empty results. Does anyone else with OCD experience a similar problem and if so how have you handled it?