AITJ for cussing my sister out, not giving her my phone when hers got taken away and telling my parents all about it?
I was 14 (Male) at the time, earlier in the day, I came home to almost 0 dishes in the sink. It was my turn so I was glad that I wouldn't have to do much for the day. I finished them up and headed up to my room to play Minecraft.
Later, my parents came home and complained about the dishwasher being loaded and took our phones for a different reason (I forgot that reason). Usually my sister and I cycle between the dishes and unloading the dishwasher. So I thought it would have been her problem, instead she called me. She had told me that she knew the sink was basically empty and I should have done the dishwasher also and that she had been cleaning the dishes and unloading the dishwasher for a while now. She had lied, and I wasn't going to let her gaslight me. She started going off about how I don't do anything and I told her that if she had been cleaning and unloading the dishwasher when it was her turn for a while, I would have noticed and she hadn't because the cycle has still been going on. It only stopped when her phone was taken away after a family vacation because she had been rude to our grandma and I gave her mine to get her to chores for me, which was her idea. So I don't owe her anything for that. I cuss her out and tell her to just shut up because our mom was getting tired of the bickering and I took out the trash.
The next day, I came home saw her unloading the dishwasher, that's my job today. Tiny fight, I go do the dishes anyway. I had my phone because I took it back last night. She asks about my phone, I tell her I took it back, she asks if she can use it, I say no, she asks why, I say because I said no, this repeats multiple times. She says "why are you being so boring today" I don't respond. She says im embarassing, I do not respond. She calls me gay, again I don't respond. Just to be clear, I do not take being gay as an insult, infact when she called be that I took it as her projecting her internal homophobia. She stormed upstairs, I went to go see what she would do, she knocked over my books, unplugged my headphones from my monitor and was seemingly trying to unplug my computer as well. I knew she would attempt these things, because these are things I hate when people do, infact her and I had a quarrel over this just a few days ago, she had unplugged my computer while it was still running and knocked over my books while looking for our mothers day card. All things I got extremely mad at her about. Not because of the initial action but because she tried to make as if i was getting angry over nothing. She had said that she was just trying to play fortnite, she had lied again. My computer was crooked, my headphones on the ground, i'm no idiot. She left unsatisfied with the little damage she caused.
I stood guard until my parents came, changed my phone password. I told my dad EVERYTHING, i'm not very articulate, I stutter alot, my sister also made fun of that the day before. Regardless my dad listened, I saw his face shift when I told him about what she did to my room. My little sister was there to confirm my story, and told a similar story of her own. The older sister called her a lesbian and said she had no friends because she wouldn't give her her phone. There was a pattern, when she didn't get what she wanted, she turned to pleading, then insults, then often vandalism or violence. My dad called her, she never came.
Later, I went up to my room and saw a letter on my desk I would read it but I ripped it up, if you are curious just say because I kept the pieces. It was only and apology for her calling me gay, just that. Not for gaslighting me, not for vandalising my room, not for insulting my stutter, for calling me gay. That was the worst part for her. She apologised for the most insignificant part and had the audacity to place it in my room. Not even face to face, not even on line paper, she ripped a page out of her sketch book wrote some bullshit on it and called it an apology.
I wrote this the same day it had happened, so expect some follow-ups, I really enjoyed writing this.
TL;DR My sister Gaslit me, insulted me, vandalised my room and the only thing she apologised for was calling me gay.