Tldr: I'm seeing someone nice but that I can't really respect socioeconomically, i want to be fine with it, but I can't help but be bothered. Can it work?
A few months ago I've started seeing with this person and they have a lot of qualities I enjoy: they're kind, sweet, we have great chemistry and good sex. I like the relationship on my life and am happy with what it brings, but I find myself dwelling on the fact that they're, to put it bluntly, socioeconomically a teenager. They've never had a real job and still live off an allowance from their parents' while doing a lukewarm job hunt; they don't seem to understand how taxes work and are clearly just having theoretical opinions about finances because they've lived a very sheltered life and parrot their parents' opinion. They're also sensitive about this since they're actively trying to become more independent, which I support (lord knows I've met many who have no intention of change), but every time we talk about more real world things it puts me off.
I don't mind having a more casual relationship, I don't want kids, am financially independent, don't need/want them moving in unless we can be equal financially, and enjoy our time together talking about stuff we have in common, etc. But sometimes when I hear them say something financially irresponsible or just doing whatever their parents tell them to do i feel an odd sense of resentment seeping in. I don't mean serious things or anything that affect me, which would be another story! The other day they were telling me they were figuring out how to make a Euro account, I told them how, and I immediately knew it was their parents' suggestion panicking about inflation - and I felt the need to point out that while for their rich parents this makes sense, with their current income they're actively losing money by having made one. And I realised I found them a lot less attractive and much younger looking that day because I was judging how compliant they are to their parents. I also work with youth and find it embarassing to share advice from work about professional development, because they are not my social case. They don't want to be, but since they're used to just being told what to do and are the kind to ask around a lot I find myself sharing such advice every now and then (say, one in 5 conversations? Not excessive by any means). They definitely have more in common with my social work cases than with me when it comes to work and finance.
Is there some way to just turn off the part that thinks of this?