u/AccomplishedBath5722

so i sat down with her (part 1 is on my page if i havent hid the views or something). i told her im really sorry and i actually dont care about her wasting food and instead i care about her. she said she is sorry. so its been 2 days and today she snapped at me after i simply asked if she wanted chips bc i was getting some. she said fine and she ate 2 packets. then she ate 2 chocolates and a wrap. she started crying bc she over ate. i asked her out of pure wonder as we know she already calorie counts how much she ate today. she said 900 and that shes going to gain a tone. i reassured her it takes like 3.5k calories to gain a pound of fat (idk how accurate this actually is). she said she was sorry for snapping at me and she told me not to worry about her eating bc now she ate 900 and shes ‘better’.

maybe a couple hours later i came home from visitng my parents and she was doing HIIT in our living room. i asked her how much shes doing. she said she was doing it for an hour and a half. she looked really tired and told her maybe she needs a little rest. she said she has to burn 700 calories or something to make her binge less bad.

im trying to make her see this is bad but my parents dont know what to do. her parents as u know from other post, dont care and think this diet is good for her.

im glad she ate more today but idk if exersising has the same effect as her just eating less. im not sure what to do anymore. idk if this is getting worse. i mean personally i couldnt do an hour and a half of HIIT. i go to the gym but have breaks, like mega breaks. idk what to do. is it getting worse?!

i told her also that maybe she could go see a doctor to see what type of diet would benefit her loosing weight. she said they wouldnt recommend her to loose weight as shes a healthy weight. i asked her why shes loosing weight if she knows shes a healthy weight but by her response i know i shouldnt have asked her that. im not wanting to give up on her. we have dated since we were 15 and now we are 19 and bought our first apartment together. we have known each other since little kids.

we live together and we had some snacks in our fridge. they were hers bc i bought them for her. i got home and went to the bathroom obviously. i saw bits of chocolate and brownie lying at the bottom of the toilet. there was no water in the toilet either. i think she tried to flush them away and its not all left.

i asked her, «oh did u enjoy the brownie and chocolates i gave you» she said yeah it was good. i told her i found some in the toilet and asked her why. she just says she didnt want all of it. i asked her why not save it for later or put it in the bin. she just said it was a mistake and shes sorry.

its a bit annoying 1. clogging our toilet with food. 2. wasting food. 3. she could have gave them to me or her family. for about a month shes not being eating that much. she has a calorie counting app. i asked her if i could see how the app works. she was really resistant but gave in. when she didnt look i looked at what her calories were logged at. she was maxing 800 calories a day. lower ones were at 300 or nothing. she just thinks i was looking at the calories of food on it. i havent told her about it.

but i did tell her parents. they just said they are glad she isnt eating junk food anymore. i told them THEIR daughter isnt eating that much and they think its good?! i told my mom and she was really mad at her parents reactions and she doesnt know what to do either. am i wrong for telling her parents? shes mad that i involved them. but i dont see why as they dont seem to care anyways? i feel like im the only one who cares that shes loosing weight fast and also is wasting food.