25M and she’s 26F. I recently started seeing a girl again that I was involved with before for a year and half . We’re not officially together, but we’ve been spending a lot of time together and it felt like things were moving in a good direction for the last 2 months and hope for a relationship was there.
The issue is, while I was out of the picture for 6 months, she got close to another girl and they’ve been involved a few times. She’s been honest that she found comfort there, and now that I’m back, she says she’s slowly shifting back towards me. She says she likes me, but also that it’s not an instant switch for her.
When I brought it up in passing, she said she can’t fully let the other person go yet because we haven’t “covered enough ground” again. She also admitted she does like her, but described it more as “fooling around” rather than something serious.
At first I told myself I could deal with it, but if I’m being real, it’s starting to get to me. I don’t like knowing there’s still someone else in the picture, and it’s making me overthink a lot. I can also feel myself starting to get a bit resentful, which I don’t want.
I should also mention I hurt her pretty badly in the past when we were together, so I understand why things aren’t straightforward between us and why there’s some emotional distance.
I get that things are complicated, so I’m trying to be understanding. But at the same time, I’m not sure if I’m just forcing myself to be okay with something that actually isn’t sitting right with me.
Would you guys stay and give it time, or take a step back until things are clearer?