edit::: adding a TLDR::: partner wants a check in in a few days and i am having a lot of anxiety around it. Looking for maybe anecdotes or specific suggestions on your favorite ways to navigate high uncertainty/anxiety. (Rather than critiquing the situation, which I know the ways it is imperfect, I’m just trying to steer through it)
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hi all!
Does anyone experience a lot of anxiety when a partner has asked for a checkin but it isn’t til 4-5 days from now?
I do trust my partner to be reasonable and caring ——- but also they’re very busy and very boundaried around their time and part of me is scared they want to de-escalate or ask for a lot more space. I really don’t know what it’s about —
But they assured me it won’t be scary or ominous (this is in response to me saying I felt a bit worried about waiting til then and would rather talk on the phone sooner— they said they’d rather just wait and talk in person, and it’s some things around space and communication and desires).
I am aware that I struggle with anxiety and it isn’t for my boo to handle my feelings around this —— I am careful not to dump this on them. I want them to feel safe to ask for a check in —-that’s totally fine and healthy.
I guess I am just asking —— does anyone else get a lot of anxiety when a check in is looming, even if things seem pretty good? It’s not like us to plan one ahead of time. Scenarios keep going through my head of things they could be not liking about our connection but, I think we both treat each other really well.
Just asking for tips on how to deal with that anxiety or any recommendations on how to remember that I trust this person and I trust myself. Any tips on how to feel less negative/fearful towards these course corrections that are natural in a nonomonog connection?