Me (22f) and my fiance (25m) are looking at buying a house together. However I’m having second thoughts from him crossing boundaries.
As the title says. I have been with him for 1y & 3/4, he proposed to me around 1y & 1/2 (after we had our first argument and then resolution about my boundaries), so I thought all was swell.
We have been trying to find a house, because I thought he’s the love of my life, but come to find out he’s going and paying for OF girls again. Now, I did not ban porn - that stuffs free I don’t mind - but paying for other women nude really upsets me. And he knows this - we have had those chats plenty. I have been ultra clear I do not like it when I’m in a committed relationship and my partner pays for other women’s nudes. But I’ve seen that he pays for them still (after genuinely telling me last night that he doesn’t), and I can’t bring it up to him again because he gets all defensive and lies, and I can’t keep crying about it and hating myself tbh.
I want to know if they really do change for you? I want to know if we should carry on? I want to know how to bring it up again.