19F—-Okay I need honest advice because I don’t really talk to guys like that, so this is new for me.
For background, I’m pretty private and I’ve never really had a boyfriend or even a real “talking stage” before. Guys will stare at me or be around me, but they don’t actually come up and say anything. My mom has always told me not to be “thirsty” and to let the guy initiate, so that’s how I usually move.
There’s this guy I’ve seen around for a while, and I’ve liked him lowkey. He’s seen me in person before too (like at events), and I’m not gonna lie, I know I looked good those times 😭
So I followed him on Instagram. His account was private but he followed me back, and then he liked one of my old posts from like 5 months ago. My friend told me that meant he was probably trying to get my attention, so I texted him “hey.”
He responded and we had a normal conversation—just getting to know each other, asking questions about where we’re from, school, etc.
Then he asked for my number and said he doesn’t like talking on Instagram.
So I gave him my number. He texted me saying “hey it’s ___,” and here’s where I’m second guessing myself—my friend told me to just say “wassup,” even though I didn’t really want to. So I liked the message and said “wassup.”
Now he hasn’t replied for about 2 days.
What’s confusing me is:
he liked my old post
he was engaging in conversation
he asked for my number
So I don’t understand why it just stopped like that.
I’ve also seen him around a lot of girls, so I’m wondering if he just talks to multiple people and I’m not a priority, or if I messed something up by just saying “wassup.”
And another thing I’ve been thinking about is: could he think he already responded? Or is he trying to see if I’ll text him first again? I’m not sure if I’m overthinking that.
I don’t want to come off as too available or chase him, but I also don’t want to miss something if I’m supposed to follow up.
So my questions are:
Should I text him again? If I do, what should I say without sounding desperate?
Or should I just leave it alone and let it die if he doesn’t come back?