AIO if I never allowed her to invite people over to my appartment?
I (29) F and my sister (32) are very different in character. I am not as outgoing as her. I dont like mess, drugs, execive drinking or being fake or cheating on others... All the stuff that she does. I graduted three years ago and have been working fulltime. I got an appartment because I dont feel comfortable inviting people over in my parents house. And it is because I wanted too. It is two rooms with a kitchen. My sister had an appartment but left it like half a year ago and moved back to my parents because she is still struggeling to finish Uni. she needs to write her thesis. By my parents she is staying with my brother in his room (it is a small appartment). With my fulltime job I struggle to keep up with the chores. Latley I have been also doing alot of chores at my parents because my mom is sick and my brother is traveling. My sister obviously cant bring her friends over to my parents. So on Saturday we were at a caffee with music event and we met alot of people. we have been thier often that by now we are friendly with alot of the people. she stared nagging me that she wants the key to my place. So she goes afterward party with two people and afterward can invite them over. The other girl invited her to her appartment but she refused because she is gonna soon get her period and dont want to be somewhere far. I have no problem staying by my parents but I hated the idea that she will trash the place. she gets very drunk and spills her drink everywhere. Also they were going to do dr*gs and be loud tell the morning. My sister has no probelm if I ever took her appartment and trash it. Or if I annoyed the neighbour. She once gave me her appartment like few years ago. I also did gave her the appartment many times. But I am very done with thet. She uses my clean bed sheets as curtains because I dont have any. She smokes inside and the furnuture smells bad afterwared. If I say no she will be nagging and make me feel horrible and no fun until I say yes to the next time. She keeps on bulling me into saying yes to what she wants... The other problem is that she ruins my image infront of any group of people we meet together. They are not only her friends, which doesnt make sense for them to go to my house when I am not there. she also got drunk, tried to start a problem with some girl. she also feel down while trying to show off her dancing skills which are not existing. Everybody was laughing. she becomes a horrible person. She flirts and cheet infront of everyone if she likes someone. I end up trying to stop thing from going very far. She have alchohole problem and doesnt want to do anything about it. AIO if I never allowed her to invite people over to my appartment?
---- Everyone is saying I am a doormate... will maybe I am, but it is because I come from an arabic country that puts alot of value on family... which led my mom to try to convince me for my whole life to keep my sister in my life... I know it is not correct but I wanted to hear an openion that is not in my circle... What a nice punsh