u/Acceptable_Ask_2986

My wife and I have been married for 10 years now. Over the course of 10 years our marriage has changed drastically. Even as individuals we have changed. We have been caught in a vicious cycle of having good days to suddenly we have extreme arguments that just push each other away. In the past, and even recently, She has told me she wants to seperate. This last time I told her we will and it might be for the best. Later in the same conversation, She tells me she still wants to try to work things out. My dumb brain felt an obligation to agree and just say yeah, Knowing its not really what I want. How do I rid myself of the obligated feelings and proceed with breaking the news that a seperation/divorce is what I want?