u/AcceptableWave1673

Where are the tears

My gf broke up with me a couple weeks ago. It was out of the blue. After I left her place I had a good cry. But since then I’ve only been able to cry once since then. But for the most part it hasn’t really phased me. I bought a new bike and have been rocking climbing and gotten back into yoga.

To preface, when we broke up she was more distraught and cried a ton. She was unsure if she even wanted to break up. But I left. This time around I am like maybe time is all she needs. I didn’t beg or try to mend anything. I won’t call for her. I figure at this point if the love was strong enough she will reach out. But I don’t feel like moping around is any good for me tbh. This is her thing to fix if she wants it. But I did wonder like am I not an emotional person? Did I not love her?

But last night I realized that I loved her the most out of anyone I’ve ever been with. But maybe more time on my side I’ll feel more effected by it. But it feels strange.

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u/AcceptableWave1673 — 5 hours ago

Great timing

My ex broke up with me during the NHL and NBA playoffs . Feeling kind of grateful due to the fact I can focus on what really matters to me. I think life will be hard when the playoffs end and till the nfl season starts back up. Anyways, I hope she misses me.

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u/AcceptableWave1673 — 2 days ago

Thank you

I’m glad you gave up on us. As much as you bs’d your way through the breakup I found it hard to cry or be sad. If you decide to reach out it’ll be a long road to accept you back. If you move on you’ve said enough. Sitting around and moping about you is not loving to myself. So thank you for making the decision. I know it will be hard at times. I’m giving myself 90 days to self reflect and move on. Ive had some long term relationships in my life and this was just another notch on the belt for now. This is to all the dumpees that never tried. We are better without you. Hope you can heal things in your life to stay better for the next person. If you come back be ready to do some real work in life. A lot of us don’t have time for people that just want to quit. If you feel guilty it’s not our problem. It’s not our mess to fix. Go figure that out yourself. For the rest of us, stay strong. You will be okay. Learn to love yourself. I have lost enough. I will not lose myself too. If we get back together, that’s a great life with her. If we don’t, it will be a great life with me.

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u/AcceptableWave1673 — 2 days ago