Hi everyone,
I (20M) have been with my girlfriend (19F) for about 3months. Recently, some new dynamics have come up in our relationship that I’m not entirely comfortable with.
For example, she has started asking me to call her “older sister,” which feels a bit unusual to me. She also sometimes introduces interactions that have a kind of “rule” or “punishment” element to them. It seems like this is her way of expressing closeness or adding something new to the relationship, but for me it can feel a bit uncomfortable.
In the moment, I often don’t know how to respond, so I sometimes go along with it, but afterward I feel confused and unsure about what I’m actually okay with.
I don’t want to shut her down or make her feel rejected, but I also don’t want to ignore my own feelings.
How can I bring this up with her in a clear and respectful way so she understands my perspective? And when two people have different comfort levels with this kind of dynamic, how do you usually find a balance that works for both?