Hi everyone,
I am not sure what I am going for here, but I thought, why the hell not try. I am having a very hard time with this.
I am moving to another city, 2.5 hours away by train, in a week. I (41M) met this guy (37M) about 3 weeks ago, and it was an instant connection, incredible time, the whole "wow, what the hell just happened" thing. We've been seeing each other quite a bit over the past two weeks. I told him the first time we met that I was moving in three weeks. He still wrote, comes over to sleep, hangs out, we make breakfast and dinner together, he helped me move furniture. We got to the "I really like you/me too" declaration. He says he is so surprised by how well we hit it off, he likes spending time with me, etc.
I am falling for this guy, I know it. Been about 5 years since I have felt this way, genuinely, about this guy. I have been in a situationship for about 8 months with someone else, but this new guy is something real, I feel. It seems mutual. I know my move and huge life change is affecting me greatly, and it has been hard to separate, but I am confident my feelings for him are true. I could absolutely see this becoming something.
We talked about visiting between cities and such, and staying in touch. Great. But here's the other thing: he is moving back to his country, across the Atlantic, in about 3 months. So I do not know how he sees this. I will express myself and explain that this feels special, that it has been hard to play it cool, that it makes me sad to know he is leaving the country, but that I am still open to exploring it, and to asking him how he has seen the last few weeks: as a temporary thing, something potential, etc. I am not asking for advice on this last part, bc I know myself, and if I do not express it calmly, I will regret it.
I suppose what I am asking for here is really just some support. Maybe advice from anyone who's turned something like this into a LDR or had to deal with something beautiful and surprising being temporary yet meaningful? I cannot bring myself to accept that I will "feel this with someone else" yet. I want this guy so badly, him in particular, and to see what could become of it. The only way is to see how he feels. Anything out there from anyone?
-dealing with the anxiety
-the uncertainty
-the possibility of it being temporary and fleeting
-handling the projected grief and sadness before it's happened
-support of any kind?
Thanks, everyone.