My partner was determined that we go on a trip during our summer break (I’m a doctoral student and have two weeks off). I also overheard him asking my friend about whether he should do it at the beginning of the trip or the end.
He just told me today that it’s not happening on this trip, and he’s telling me so I don’t get my hopes up (trust, he’s not saying this as a distraction). He said he thought about doing it on the trip but decided not to, when I asked.
He broke up with me a year into our relationship because “I wanted marriage, commitment, and he didn’t. A couple months after that he came back to me and said he missed me and he changed his mind, he does want to marry me.
I have been ready for over 2 years now (we went ring shopping 2 Christmas’s ago), and he still can’t even talk about it. He now pulled out of it happening on this upcoming trip.
How long do I wait? It makes me so so sad. Everyday I cook for him, take care of the house, pay the bills, in doctoral school, and am helping him complete his bachelors, and also fighting my own health battles. I do all this, thinking I’m investing in my future with him. I’m starting get tired of being ready for someone who can’t commitment.