I accidentally vented to someone connected to my ex’s new girlfriend
My ex cheated on me and I left immediately after finding out. We’ve been broken up for months now and I honestly thought I had already moved on from the situation.
Recently though, one of my friends told me that her close friends are also friends with my ex’s new girlfriend. Apparently they all go way back and hang out often. The thing is, I didn’t know this before, and months ago I vented and bad-mouthed some of them privately because I was hurt.
My friend apologized for not telling me earlier, but now I feel uncomfortable and can’t look at her the same. My friend has been helpful to me and hasn’t directly betrayed me, but I suddenly feel like I wasn’t fully aware of the social overlap around me.
To make it worse, I also found out my ex has apparently been telling people that what we had was not serious, even though we were clearly in a relationship. It honestly feels like he’s rewriting the story to make himself look better after cheating.
Now I’m stuck feeling weird about my reputation and about whether I can still fully trust my friend with personal things.
Am I overreacting for feeling bothered by all this, or is this a normal reaction?