u/AcanthisittaFun6919

My husband and I have been separated since January 1st. We haven’t been living together this whole time and on April 1st he moved out entirely signed a 1 year lease for an apartment an hour away. We have been married 11 years. Since separation we have had sex 3-5 times which complicates things. We recently had a conversation about being in limbo. I asked are we divorcing or are we working toward reconciliation at some point. He said that when I asked him to leave the house and he got a new place he was pretty sure we were getting a divorce. He didn’t know that there was an option for reconciliation, which is bullshit. I had him sign a contract or an agreement regarding our children and child support and moving out and that we would revisit our situation in November to see if we wanted to move forward towards divorce or reconciliation. Which he signed and when I mentioned it yesterday he acted like he didn’t know what I was talking about and that he was pretty sure that we were getting a divorce so I told him then why aren’t we? If we are getting a divorce then let’s file if we are going to try and reconcile then let’s start the steps in doing so. I told him having sex, flirting, and talking everyday is confusing. 🫤 i’m also in therapy trying to work through my feelings because I love my husband and I miss him every day but I don’t know that I want him back. I don’t know if he is capable of loving me the way I need to be loved. He has a lot of demons and he’s in therapy too trying to work through those demons. I feel like this post is all over the place please forgive me.