My father wants me to finance a car over 40k for him, but my mom needs a house to get a divorce. What should I do?
My family situation is a mess. My dad has always been financially supported by my grandfather. About 20 years ago, he gave him 100k and my father hid it from my mom and me. He’s always been cheap and constantly claimed he was broke.
He was laid off 12 years ago and hasn't had a formal job since. He’s been working as an Uber driver, but he’s already been in over 8 car accidents and is now without a car. He’s Pressuring me to finance a car in my name so he can work. The thing is, I don’t trust him at all. A few years ago, my grandfather gave me 50k to finish college. My dad managed to spend half of it in just two months without even asking me.
To make things harder, my mom is desperate for a divorce because living with him is unbearable, but she has no money for a place of her own. I moved out at 16 just to escape the stress, and I currently send her 1,1k every month in secret.
I’m stuck. I feel for my grandfather, who is still supporting him, but I only have enough to either finance this car for my dad (which he’ll likely crash again) or help my mom with a down payment on a house so she can finally leave. What would you do in my position? Neither of my parents were great, but I still feel responsible as an only child.