u/Able_Sale4234

Hello, 40 (f) recently met a man 12 weeks ago and things are going great! He’s been very open from the start that he engaged in the swinging scene with his previous partner. He sees it as a couple dynamic and as a way of exploring fantasies together. He’s very reassuring and states that he wouldn’t want to persuade me to do anything, would have to be lots of talk about it before he would consider it with me etc yet it still keeps cropping up! I’m not all that long out of a long relationship where sexuality and desires were ever explored so I’m still kinda compressed in that department! It’s definitely not a hard no from me but I feel like I cannot promise him something I don’t know entirely how I feel about! It’s still a new thing between us and I’m trying to get to know him! I’m starting to feel like this will determine us going forward and I don’t want to lead him up the garden path but at the same time I cannot allow myself to be feeling pressurised even if most of it is coming from me! Feeling anxious about it all!! Advice very welcomed! X