Lol, don't mind me if it's too stupid, but this spring I just figured that if you take a brush and you go flower to flower (simulating what a bee does), it actually works.
For the first time after 4 years I have apricots and lot of pears.
Maybe I'm the last one in here knowing this trick, but I just wanted to share it
Asking honestly. I'm a designer who's spent the past few months building a coordination tool for siblings in this situation, and I keep finding that the obvious answers (money, time) are surface-level. The deeper stuff seems to be about feeling unseen, decisions being made without you, or one sibling carrying the emotional weight while others "help when they can."
For those of you in the middle of it: what would actually make a difference for your family, vs. what just sounds nice on paper?
No pitch, I'm just trying to understand the real problem better. Genuinely grateful for any honest answer, even if it's "nothing would help, we're too broken."