Soooo my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I was freshly divorced and didn’t think it would go anywhere and he was looking for a one night stand….oops. Anyway I’ve caught him on tinder before and he says he doesn’t know what his problem is, we will separate then a month later I’m back. I attract to him like a mosquito to a bug lantern. A week ago I found out he’s back on tinder, back on Snapchat, and he doesn’t know I know. I feel exhausted and I don’t want to have the same conversations over and over. He lives with me, his grandpa has cancer so I’ve stayed for his family to try to help him get through. Im mentally exhausted. Overall, I want to leave, but it’s so freaking hard. He does a lot around the house and helps out where he can. I made a fake tinder account to catch him and within 5 minutes he was sending d!*k pics! In total he’s probably talked to upwards of 75 people in 3 years. He gets what he wants, blocks them, and moves to the next. He says I’m different because we are in an actual relationship. A month ago he SWORE he would stop, since it’s started to affect my health. Surprise! He lied. I’ve kept it to myself and have went on like nothing has happened at all…and he has been soooo nice and bending over backwards for me. We have gone to couples therapy. And his grandparents tell me to hang in there it’ll get better. It hasn’t.
I don’t know how to leave. And I don’t know what to say to him. Helppp me please