I read a lot of your posts here,
And I wanted to share my story briefly… I was really afraid to get rejected by my new boyfriend. I have herpes since 10 years. Got rejected once.
And I don’t regret this past experience.
I can tell, once you find the right partner, someone mature, empathic and understanding, there is no problem disclosing this… it went really well, my bf really appreciated my honesty, and I have to say, it grows our mutual feelings. He really reassured me and made me feel safe. I picked the right moment, when our emotional intimacy was strong enough and ahead any physical one..
I was of course very stressed, and it’s human. People understand it though when they genuinely care about you. I told him I was taking the medication, and if you disclose this showing you are responsible, there won’t be a problem.
He told me this did not change anything for him, 100%… and he sees it more like something we need to be responsible as a team.
I just wanted to share some hope here. I know how much this virus can make us feel like we have the plague. I think for me it has been more like a kind of filter.. I am not happy to have it still, but this is manageable and the person who was super rejecting to me, never really cared about the person that I was and I am thankful he rejected me today.
Have a great day all !!!