I (27f) don’t know if I should break up with my boyfriend (33m) of 1 year
Hello, I’m posting here because I really don’t know what to do. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and I’m having some doubts about the relationship. I had a difficult upbringing and as a result am looking for a relationship that has the once in a lifetime kind of feel. My boyfriend was married before, this was a very short and coerced marriage and as a result I felt it was insignificant enough to not be an issue. Fast forward to now, it was recently the anniversary of his wedding and he’s admitted to feeling sadness and grief around it not working out and never coming back.
I’m not sure I want to be with and potentially marry someone who holds sadness about a relationship with another woman. I want to be with only significant relationship to him and him to me. Is this unrealistic, or is it okay to want to break up and have the opportunity to have this with someone else?
Point to add - he is also a bit emotionally closed off and not lovely, this doesn’t help me with my insecurity as I struggle to feel loved.
More info - I had a previous 5 year relationship and we broke up 1 month before our wedding because I was worried he wasn’t the one.